Self-Care

For most of my life, I’ve been at war with my own memory. I’m great at solving problems, debugging complex code, and figuring out tricky logic flows. But ask me where I saved that important note from last week? Gone. Ask me what I was about to do five seconds ago? No idea. My brain has this incredible ability to cling to completely useless information while ruthlessly discarding the things I actually need. ...

If you’ve ever worked as a developer, you know that fixing a bug is never just fixing a bug. It’s an emotional rollercoaster, a psychological test, and sometimes, a personal attack on your own intelligence. And no matter how many times we do this, it always follows the same pattern. 1. Confidence (“This will be easy.”) You open the ticket, read the description, and think, Oh, I see what’s happening. I’ll knock this out in 10 minutes. ...

The Multitasking Myth: Why Doing Less Makes You More Productive For years, I thought I had cracked the code to getting things done. I was a multitasker—a master of spinning plates. ✔ Answering messages while debugging code. ✔ Cooking dinner while listening to a tech podcast. ✔ Planning my week while pushing a stroller. I convinced myself this was peak efficiency. Turns out, I was dead wrong. Multitasking isn’t a productivity hack. It’s a scam. ...

People think developers write code in a smooth, structured way—like some kind of elegant digital architect. They imagine us sitting in front of a screen, effortlessly typing out clean, efficient, well-documented functions, sipping coffee, and feeling in complete control. Yeah. No. Here’s what actually happens. Step 1: The Grand Vision (“I know exactly how to do this.”) You get the ticket. You think, Oh, this is simple. You crack your knuckles. Open your editor. Start typing with confidence. ...

The Productivity Trap: Why Doing More Is Keeping You Stuck For years, I thought productivity was about doing more. ✔ More tasks. ✔ More efficiency. ✔ More checkboxes. If I wasn’t constantly optimizing, planning, and squeezing every second for maximum output, I was failing. And at first? It worked. I was getting things done. My to-do list was long, and I was checking off items like a machine. But then something strange happened. ...